My Story
That feeling had been building for a long time. Let me take you back to where it started.
I remember sitting in my yellow reading chair one evening, a book open in my hands, my eyes scanning the page without absorbing a single word. My husband was in the living room. My mind was somewhere else entirely.
One quiet, persistent thought: there has to be more to life than this.
There was. But it would take me a while to find it.
I was five or six when my parents divorced. As the eldest child I grew up quickly — taking on responsibilities that weren’t mine to carry, learning early to put everyone else’s needs before my own. What I know now is that the patterns we develop to survive become the patterns that run our lives. I just couldn’t see mine yet.
From the outside, my adult life looked meaningful. A fulfilling career supporting people with neurodiversity, awards for my work, a marriage, a home.
But inside I was living smaller than I wanted to – tucking away dreams of travel, adventure, and freedom, telling myself they probably weren’t possible.
Then I was diagnosed with Functional Neurological Disorder. The diagnosis forced me to confront something uncomfortable: if my body was expressing something my structure couldn’t explain, I needed to start looking differently at my life.
So I signed up for an NLP course and began to see the patterns that had been quietly running my life.
I had to admit something I’d been avoiding…this job isn’t for you anymore. So I set up my own business and left.
Then something harder: I don’t want to be married anymore.
So I left my marriage, sold my home, and set off to travel the world.
It was Christmas Day when I fully appreciated what I’d done.
I was sitting on Tikki Beach in Thailand, the sun warm on my skin, the sound of the waves beside me, eating a BBQ for Christmas dinner. It had been a year since I left my marriage.
And sitting there I realised I was living my life exactly the way I wanted to.
Unconventional, unplanned, and entirely, authentically mine.
Nine countries. Twelve months. And finally, myself.
In 2025 I spent two months in Uganda, living and working alongside the children and teachers of Wisdom Junior School in Bbembe – a school still being built, with classrooms that had no windows or doors.
I coached teachers, worked with quiet children to find their voice, raised funds to help purchase windows and doors for classrooms that had none.
And before I left, a child named Arthur handed me a letter that has never left my side.
I now live in a little gite in the Dordogne, surrounded by woodland. My alarm clock is birdsong.
I work online with people around the world – helping them see the patterns that have been quietly running their lives, recognise the strengths they’ve been carrying without naming them, and step into the life that genuinely feels like theirs.
I know what it feels like to want more and tell yourself you can’t. To live in a life that looks fine from the outside and feels hollow from the inside. To carry something heavy and say nothing.
I also know what it feels like to finally put it down.
I’m an NLP Trainer, trained through the school of Sue Knight – one of the world’s leading NLP Master Trainers. I’m a professional member of ANLP, with a background in psychology and over 25 years supporting people with neurodiversity. My professional training and lived experience aren’t separate things – they’re all of me, working together.
That’s not a philosophy I read somewhere. It’s a life I lived my way to.